Submission

Strong word, I know. Something that was hard for me to swallow and for most people. However, it has changed me. Because of this word I can more easily fulfill my role as a wife and mother. Since its Father's day I wanted to talk about my role as a wife and how important it is to be submissive so that my husband can fulfill his role as the Father. (Colossians 3:18, 1 Peter 3:1)
I think the reason for women nowadays hesitate to being submissive to their husbands is because they misunderstand what it means. It doesn't mean to shut up and get trampled on. It doesn't mean you are weak and allow yourself to be degraded. Its the opposite. It takes a strong personality to be submissive. Since submission isn't something that can be enforced on a person, is a simple decision that one makes. It is a gift from me given to Diego. It is one of the most beautiful gifts that I can offer him, and I do it willingly. That's the key. A submissive wife is one whose heart is geared towards satisfying her husband and who has made a choice to be led by her husband. Therefore, I have accepted his authority. I don't try to please my husband because I'm afraid of his rejection or punishment, but because it makes me happy to please him. I find satisfaction in doing so.
You can see a pattern in my blogs. I try to always go back to me NOT being the center of attention. Life isn't about me. It's about, "Hi, I am here to serve you. What can I do to help YOU?"
Here is the thing, I benefit from being like this because by being this type of wife I encourage a certain type of husband. For a man, a submissive wife is a pleasure to be around because she helps him to feel at peace. She is a reliable helper who can be depended on. He can trust her with his deepest desires and fears because he is not afraid of her rejection or anger.  He can relax with her because he knows that even when he makes mistakes, she will be working with him to put them right and minimize the consequences rather than using them to prove a point or as an excuse for rejecting him in some way.  A man who has a submissive wife acquires a greater sense of self respect because he knows that she respects his authority in her life and she is not in any way trying to belittle him. You see, when you're married you are a team. What I have to offer to the team is the submission to my husband. If you have two people who want the authority there is going to be a fight for power. It won't work. (Ephesians 5:22-33)
So, if this scares you, try it out and see what happens. Experiment a little. Find out what being submissive in your relationship means for you.
I wanted to try it out because it was in the bible, and of course, God always keeps his promises. I am still working on it, but so far so good.
Thanks to my amazing husband and father to my child, Diego. I am allowed to grow and change without any scorning. I hope I allow him to more easily fulfill his role as the man of our family. I truly hope I can be his crown.(Proverbs 12:4)